I am in my early 20’s and some might say that I am in prime and I should enjoy this period of my life. I agree.

I have been giving the opportunity to travel the world, enjoy the finer things in life and fall in love with myself. My past relationships and life experiences have molded me into the person I am today.

These experiences have helped me create boundaries in order to have a guide to what I am looking for in a potential suitor.

The idea of marriage often scares me because I know that it is a commitment. A lifelong commitment. I strongly believe that all the couples that said the words, “I DO”, were not anticipating a divorce. However, “About 40% to 50% of married couples in the United States divorce, according to the American Psychological Association.”

The divorce rate has skyrocketed for multiples reasons, which is the reason why I am choosing to take my time to find the “one.”

I am not intimated by societal pressures to get married and have children or the idea that my biological clock is running out of time.

My past relationships, life lessons and numerous late-night conversations with loves one has helped me create the 11 questions I ask my potential suitors:

1. Do you believe in God? (Are you a disciple?)

This is by far the most important question I ask. After the honeymoon stage is over, the real work begins. Life has its ups and downs. I want our relationship to have a strong foundation; our faith in God will help us in tough times.

2. What are you none negotiable?

Knowing his none negotiable is important to me, it allows me to understand him better.  Vice versa, they are certain things that I will not put up. Therefore, I want us to have that mutual respect.

3. What are you saving habits?

Most marriages fail because of the lack of communication in regards to finances.  I   to create generational wealth. In other words, how we spent OUR  money matters to me.

4. What are your goals in life? ( Financially & Spiritually)

There’s is no “I” in team and marriage is TEAMWORK.  Therefore, in order for me to support your spiritual and financial goals I need to know them. I am very ambitious and I want my partner to fulfill his full potential.

5. Do you want children? How many?

Some man doesn’t want/like children and I do. Others want a whole village and I don’t.

6. Where/When do you see yourself settling down?

I want to travel the world and possibly live in different countries for a few years. Therefore, I want to know if that is an option for my potential suitor. In addition, I want to know if my potential suitor is serious about settling down.

7. How do you deal with disappointments & arguments?

We are humans which we means were infallible.  Nonetheless, communication is extremely for ANY relationship to work. Understanding how to handle disappointments and arguments are essentially for a successful relationship.

8. What are your views on gender roles?

I believe a successful relationship is 50/50. Some might respectfully disagree and that is okay. Nonetheless, I want my potential suitor and me to have an open conversation about our “roles” if we were to get married.

9. What are your values?

Values are extremely important to me.

10. Does it matter if I make more money than you?

Some man are intimated when the woman makes more money. I want to know if that will be an issue. If it is, then I don’t think we are compatible.

11. What’s your love language?

I want to able to encourage my partner and understanding his love language will help me.

Note: The author of this article requested to be anonymous.